Identifying your Social Style


Take the “Identifying your Social Style” quiz.Evaluate the results.Share your results with a family member or friend and get their perceptions of your social style. Write a four page essay covering:

  1. Your results.
  2. A comparison of your results and self-perception to the feedback from your family member or friends.
  3. Share how your social style affects the verbal and non-verbal messages you send.
  4. List at least three communication skills you would like to improve in after completing this quiz

********(the four social styles are amiable social style, a driver social style, expressive social style, and analytic social style.)*********

Sample paper

Social styles


The human being has been known to be a social being who is often influenced by behavior and characteristics.  Usually, people of the same behavior, age and with the same ambitions form a social group. Research shows that social classes have been used all over in the world to enhance leadership performance and sales results (“Neurolinguistic Programming and Professional Development: Improving Communication Skills,” n.d). Anyone’s social style relates to a description of behavior patterns of people and what others observe in them. In most cases, how individuals do things, what they say and how they say them gives a description of a particular pattern of behavior.

My results

My results are based on answers to questions on pages 32-33 which I answered to ascertain my social style. The results are presented in measures of assertiveness and responsiveness. The degree to which I strive to take control my activities, thinking and/events of others show how much I am assertive. On the other hand, the readiness, of which I show my feelings and emotions to people concerning my relationships with others shows how much I am responsive. Assertiveness focuses on being self-confident without getting aggressive while responsiveness, focuses on the reactions and how an individual responds to the demands and requests from others.  From these two parameters, I realized I am more assertive and more responsive

 A comparison of my results and self-perception to the feedback from a friend

My brother feels that I am always more willing to make my feelings open or known to others without hesitation. Additionally, he thinks that I am a talkative, personable and opinionated person who sometimes demand things I want rather than asking politely. From these conditions and reasons given, it is quite clear that my assertiveness nature takes the better part of me as compared to my responsive nature. Apart from these observed traits or behaviors, my parents feel that I have a higher emotional response, especially to my peers and family. They feel that I am people-oriented and sometimes repulsive but responsive.

How expressive social style affects the verbal and non-verbal messages I send

I am highly assertive and highly responsive person, which makes it simple for me to react to others as well as express my feelings freely. Concerning communication, an expressive individual shows the characters of a friendly person, responsive, open in communication, emphatic and trusting. Therefore, there is a high probability that most people even family might mistake my high assertiveness and demands for rudeness or take me to be a bad communicator. Expressive people normally want a sounding like good communicators who can put their message across and feelings across as intended (Saville-Troike, n.d). Notably, my expressive nature makes me so emotional which increase my likelihood to respond to other people’s conditions or demands. This significantly affects my communication because when I am too emotional, it becomes difficult to communicate effectively. Assertive people always have the heart to support and to understand friends, families or other persons they interact with.

  1. Three communication skills I would like to improve on

Effective communication is imperative. After identifying the challenges mentioned above in communication, I would like to improve the following skills of communication:

(a) Listening skills –  Effective listening helps to improve understanding of other people’s feelings and emotions

(b) Empathy- learning how to empathize more with the people I communicate with avoids unnecessary judgments.

(c) Personal presentation- learning how to maintain a positive attitude while communicating helps to create a friendly environment that ensures that message and information is well understood.


Neurolinguistic Programming and Professional Development: Improving Communication Skills. (n.d.). Educational Leadership: Personal Growth for Professional Development Educational leadership: Personal growth for professional development, 53-63. doi:10.4135/9781446247150.n6

Saville-Troike, M. (n.d.). Social contexts of Second Language Acquisition. Introducing Second Language Acquisition, 105-140. doi:10.1017/cbo9780511888830.006